Miami, our neighbor’s enormous inflatable Santa is lying in a prune-faced puddle in the yard. Up and down the block, dried out Christmas trees glitter in the garbage. And the wreathe on our front door is sun-crisped and brown as a roasted turkey. Hm. Time for a new day.
I want to make a plan. In fact, I LOVE making plans—but the follow through, well…. I recently tried to write a piece for NPR. I’d just been re-reading David Sedaris’ wonderful Holidays On Ice, and had an idea of attempting a witty, light-hearted take on the holidays. Instead, I ended up with this sort of broody piece in which I make lots of complaints about lake-effect snow. If you tune into All Things Considered tomorrow (January 2nd) for “You Must Read This,” (www.npr.org) you’ll hear my segment.
Earlier in the year, when I tried to write a somber, meditative piece on family for the Washington Post Magazine, I ended up writing about my obsession with a pink shag rug bedspread instead. http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2007/11/27/AR2007112702303.html
So I give up. When I think I’m going to one thing, I turn around and do something totally else.
In which case, I think this year’s resolutions should be as vague as possible. Also, this year, I’ve decided to write Non-Diet and Exercise Resolutions (no, no, not Anti-diet and exercise. I’m just not going to be all about the D and E, which is stuff I know I should do anyway, so why waste a perfectly good resolution-making opportunity on the same old boring struggles?)
This year, I’ve resolved to take more chances. Yup, I think that’s what it’s all about, really. No stodginess, no complacency.
I want to talk to more and different sorts of people; do more things that scare me; take more risks; do more new stuff; and basically look for opportunities to push myself.
Recently, I saw an episode of the Dog Whisperer, in which my hero Cesar Milan, in trying to help a dog through his fears of thunder storms, trains the dog to walk toward the frightening sounds in order to get his reward. I thought that was a wonderful model for living, and would even push it to the next place for people: learning to walk toward the frightening thing is its own reward.
And living larger is not just about risk and courage, it’s also about drive and creativity. I want to push myself into new places—not just geographically, but also in terms of the ways I relate to others, to myself, and where I take my writing. I do think travel is hugely important because it’s so demanding (again, thus, so rewarding.)
Perhaps I’ll try coming up with challenge or risk lists for myself, at least until I think I’m getting the hang of it. Maybe it’ll be specific goals like learning to scuba dive, but I also like the idea of “directions,” like:
Pick up the phone more often
Give Yogi longer walks
Spend less time on the computer
Experiment more, with art, politics, food, whatever is available
Learn more (one of last year’s favorite things–belly dancing!)
And so forth
I realized last night coming home from a New Year’s Eve party, that it’s too easy to let our lives settle into the paths of least resistance. I drove along the Miracle Mile and realized that I don’t even bother strolling around our little downtown any more. The world is there, beckoning, and somehow, sometimes it becomes too easy to forget to answer. I want to start to answer again.